There is a massive danger of becoming a people’s pleaser and placer. Yup. There is.
Through these years, I have kept my mouth shut though my world shakes me off to say a thing or atleast burst out what’s inside or what’s the right thing for my fellow. I was just so amazed that through subsequent experiences, social intervention and meet and greet of variety of people with personalities; I’ve made the circumstances clear.
I learned that becoming someone for the sake of others or for people who has a high rank than you, is no good. If we continue just to be a robot and nod to the things they want to see or they limit us to being someone they like us to be…at the end, you will be worn out. Tangled. Until you did not know your own parts and unable to build your own piece.I am talking about your own character, personality, vision, attitude, talents, choices, skills and dreams here. If you are engulf by the idea that you should just follow people’s own designed path for you…you will gonna be lost. Lost deep inside the forest within you, cannot stand even for a second the “roars” from the outside. If becoming a people’s pleaser gives you a lot of friends or a loving boss? Then…be ready to loss your own identity.
Living day by day wearing various mask just to please these people will somehow create a crack within you. Instead of finding yourself whole, your own choices of perfecting your social skills of pleasing will disintegrate you.
In the same way, there is also danger on becoming a people’s placer. There’s a lot of people who has this attitude. It is timely present everywhere; in every situation. Much better to live in a way you exercise and celebrate your own strategy and your own identity than to be magnified because you want to please everyone. You want to make a place in their hearts and gathered their applause. You are struggling to become the number 1 among the best, among your colleague. Competition and breaking someone’s else reputation so that you will remain on top. There is really no good on this. Instead of creating harmony on the environment, your tendency is to exclude and isolate yourself. Your focus is not on the end point itself, your focus is how to point the arrow directly on people who you think is a great competitor. Your focus for your own goal has diminish because your eyes is fixed on people. So, instead of running straight, you moved across the lines and boundaries just to please the crowd and eliminate people who threatens your stability to be the firsts.
I know each of us has their own dreams. It is better to struggle on things that we truly chooses and desired than to live in a place where you wear mask all the time. We have our own identity. It is the most precious gift we could ever have in this world. Your story is uniquely created, if peole don’t like it…it is not your problem anymore. If you are afraid to speak, well..i tell you. Better to say what’s really inside you because it might be too late. That words and opinion might help uplift other people and somehow change a system. Don’t just go with the flow in a river as if you’re a dead fish. You are alive, my dear. There is a lot of possibilities waiting for you. Becoming a people’s pleaser and placer will just lead to your own destruction. The true happiness is becoming the real person; without any masks or any hidden cultivated agenda to destroy others. Focus on your own goal and dreams, not on people beside you or not on your boss or not on your friends. That’s where real success will starts molding your life.
With much authenticity of love,